Why is it that people think that they can tell you who you are? What is good about you? What your flaws are? Make their assumptions on what your life is like? Label you? Even if they have experienced something similar in their lives or are trying to "save you from making a mistake"?
No one should tell you who you are. What you are. Or how to experience or process something that is going on in your own life. There is no one more knowledgeable or smarter about you, than you yourself. But a lot of people will. Some, it is just because they care. Others, because they use judgement and assumption based on their own experiences to try to analyze you. ONLY YOU get to do that.
I use to be one of these people myself. And I use to care what people thought. Until I became more aware of myself and who I really am, and I started realizing I was more than capable of choosing my path, my process, my decisions, and my actions for myself. Yes, this also includes mistakes. But they are ours to make. It is part of learning and growing isn't it? If it's done right, isn't that what mistakes are for? That is what they have become for me.
I don't make as many mistakes as I once did. When I started going through a process of being more deep rooted in myself, I became more and more aware of what had been in my life that was no longer ok for me. People and situations that were not healthy for my wellbeing. It is when I also learned a very important word. BOUNDRIES.
I decided that I was going to let go of those who were no longer aligned with me. Who no longer supported or encouraged me or hadn't at all. I have to love them from afar. They no longer allow us to grow in to who we are and continue to become daily.
This does not mean we don't care. Or that we become cold hearted. We just refuse to conform to other people’s ideals and what it is that they think should be. We get more assertive and confidant in who we are. NO ONE gets to tell us who we are.
It is not easy in many ways to walk away from people. It's one of the toughest things especially when you expect more from someone so close to you. Buy along with that, expectation leads to disappointment. Some people will let you see who they really are once you start living for yourself and finding you and what it is that makes you happy. Some may even resent us. And it does suck most definitely.
However, I CHOOSE ME! EVERY TIME!!