There are SO many times in our lives that we envision something. A situation, plans we make or our future. And as we ALL know, it doesn’t always work out the way we envision it. And when it doesn’t, we have a huge amount of disappointment, sadness or even anger. It can ruin your whole day, right? Even weeks or longer if you let it.
Unfortunately, we place those feelings on the person, situation, or whatever circumstance that intercepted those expectations not happening as we envisioned it. I see this happen a lot. Heck, I think I may have invented this type of reaction myself haha!
But I think that all those feelings are exasperated if we don’t realize that, that is just life. We are not all the same. We don’t all view things the same way. We are all built differently. We were raised different from one another. Our cultures are different, the people we put ourselves around are different, and even our hearts are not the same.
In my opinion, it’s has a lot to do with how we view ourselves as well. What one person’s views as acceptable is not always what someone else believes is acceptable. We are all connected as one on this earth. But we are so very different. Some of us don’t even know who our true selves are. Most just go through life doing and believing what society thinks is “normal.” But what is that?!! “Normal?” Do we really know? I can tell you I have NEVER felt normal. And it used to really bother me, and it would affect my choices.
Today, I like that I don’t wear that “Normal” label that society puts on us. I mean, isn’t normal boring?? The worlds filter of normal is boring to me hahaha. When I had taken a step back and found ME. I learned what normal is to me. And I wouldn’t call it that. I just see myself as evolving into the person I was meant to be. And guess what?! I dig ME!! I love the heart I have. I love the way I Love now, even if it gets me hurt. Not just relationships with guys. But in friendships too. I love my personality and my ability to just be a dork and do things that will one day leave my kids sitting around when I’m gone to talk about me and laugh and the silly things I had done to make them laugh.
Once we do come to that place within ourselves, there is no better place to be. And that is something to hold tight to. Never let go and never let anyone take it from you. And with that, when our visions or expectations don’t go as we want, we become ok with that because our outlook changes and we learn to just "adjust our sales" as they say haha.
Just change your mindset and make good choices.