It’s crazy that we live in a world where if you are super positive and super creative…It’s scary. Because what does that tell you about the mentality of most people if your scred of like…positivity — Kanye West
Have you ever noticed how it is so much easier to believe the negative feelings about ourselves rather than the positive? And it takes just as much effort to see the Radness within ourselves as it does the negative. But we always seem to choose the negative. We are always quick to think of ourselves as not worthy, not enough, uncapable, not good looking enough and that we seriously have some issues. Why is that?
I watched a video once on Facebook. It was of this father getting his daughter ready for school. He had her look in the mirror and give positive affirmations to herself. “I am beautiful, I am enough, I am smart,” and so on. It gave me goosebumps and brought tears to my eyes. I thought to myself, “wow I had Daddy issues befure, now I really do.”
Starting out, our perception of ourselves comes from childhood and the way the people around us, our culture, and environment percieve us and their beliefs are imposed on us end embeded in our subconcious mind. But there comes a time when the choice is ours and it is no longer anyone else’s fault but our own. It is up to us to give ourselves that self love. Up to us to make ourselves happy.
We as humans need to embrace who we are and love our imperfections, love that scar on your stomach, love the birthmark on you’re a**, love the bone straight hair, love what is inside of us. We can not worry about what anyone else thinks. There is not one person who can make us happy the way we can make can make ourselves happy as a person. There is no one else on this earth that is uniquely made the way we are. Not everyone has to agree with this. In fact, sometimes people that are closest to us may not be happy about your change. But that is ok. They do not have to. Maybe that person should be giving themselves a little love and stop worrying about what we are doing. Because if we are happy with ourselves, then we live our true selves and live happier lives.
It takes some effort to re-wire our brain if we have lived most of our lives thinking the negative. I used to put sticky notes on my bathroom mirror. A new one everyday, of affirmations to help remind myself of what it is that makes me so rad. And eventually it just becomes our new normal. Not narcissistic normal, just authentic normal.
Letting go of guilt, mistakes we have made, and the criticism we impose on ourselves, and others impose on us, fear, all of our insecurities and quit caring what other people think, and live being happy with who we are beautifully made to be. Live to our own potential. It allows us to be free. What people think of us has nothing to do with us. It has everything to do with them. As long as we are true to ourselves, that is what matters. It only holds us back from forward motion of living. There is nothing more freeing than letting go. Of course we are going to make mistakes again. We are human. But that doesn’t make us who we are. How we deal with them does.
As long as we are living to be the best versions of ourselves and not hurting ourselves or anyone else, then there is no need for us to let the outside negativity in. We need to hold on to our own radness and not let anyone take it from us. This also allows us to treat everyone around us with kindness and mindfulness because we are not projecting our own insecurities on others.
Tell yourself today how rad you are, how beautiful you are, and find your own uniqueness and celebrate it. I challenge you all to do this for two straight weeks. I would love to hear your comments at the end of that two weeks and tell me the difference it has made.