"Treat a person as he is, and he will remain as he is. Treat him as what he could be, and he will become what he should be." - Jimmy Johnson
Being vulnerable was a terrifying thought for me. To let someone so close, in any human relationship, I could not imagine. I know many of us where our armor around people to protect ourselves from being hurt or even disappointed. Growing up and through our lives, there is someone who will disappoint us, let us down or hurt us n a consistent basis. Most likely this happens when we are younger, and it sets the tone as to how we treat those who want to be close to us.
We then let fear drive us going forward. Fear of heartbreak, fear of not being protected by the ones we love. But mostly fear of pain. So, we suit up, and we start building our defensive line and our offensive line. That is what protects us. And no one is to get in at any cost.
For years, I did not allow myself to have that stripped down raw vulnerability. Or to keep with the theme here, to have someone strip the ball from me, in fact, I cannot remember a time from late childhood until late adulthood that I allowed myself to just open completely up to someone. I did not let them get passed my O-line or D-line. That was their job, right? In my case, I was let down many times or silenced. So, I learned to make sure my "Blind Side" was covered.
I have concluded over recent years that I am not fulling living true to myself this way. If we are going to live an authentic life, we must be true to who we are. And that means feeling everything that comes in our path. We cannot let the past or history determine that for us. As adults, we can choose to walk through whatever comes our way to the best we know how and handle it all with our head held high. Otherwise, we may miss that open gap too remarkable things.